What’s the Best Way to Discipline My Child?
As a parent, one of your jobs to teach your child to behave. It's a job that takes time and patience. But, it helps to learn the effective and healthy discipline strategies.
Here are some tips:
8 healthy discipline strategies that work
1. Lead by example: Teach children right from wrong with calm words and actions. Model behaviors you would like to see in your children.
2. Set limits: Have clear and consistent rules your children can follow. Be sure to explain these rules in age-appropriate terms they can understand.
3. Communication: Calmly and firmly explain the consequences if they don't behave. For example, tell him/her that if she does not pick up her toys or his games, you will put them away for the rest of the day.
Don't give in by giving them back after a few minutes.
NOTE: Never take away something your child truly needs, such as a meal.
4. Give them attention:
The most powerful tool for effective discipline is attention.
Listening is important. Let your child finish the story before helping solve the problem. Watch for times when misbehavior has a pattern, like if your child is feeling jealous. Talk with your child about this rather than just giving consequences.
5. Give accolades when they do something good!
.Children need to know when they do something bad--and when they do something good. Notice good behavior and point it out, praising success and good tries. Be specific (for example, "Wow, you did a good job putting that toy away!").
6. Give the right respond and in time: Know when not to respond. As long as your child isn't doing something dangerous and gets plenty of attention for good behavior, ignoring bad behavior can be an effective way of stopping it. Ignoring bad behavior can also teach children natural consequences of their actions. For example, if your child keeps dropping her cookies on purpose, she will soon have no more cookies left to eat. If she throws and breaks her toy, she will not be able to play with it. It will not be long before she learns not to drop her cookies and to play carefully with her toys.
7. Give them space
A time-out can be especially useful when a specific rule is broken. This discipline tool works best by warning children they will get a time out if they don't stop, reminding them what they did wrong in as few words―and with as little emotion―as possible, and removing them from the situation for a pre-set length of time.
You can just say, "Go to time out and come back when you feel ready and in control." This strategy, which can help the child learn and practice self-management skills, also works well for older children and teens.
8. Prayer & Positive affirmations: Prayer is a universal language Christians, Muslims, Hindus etc. whether you believe in any god or not. Learn to instill the right behaviours on your Children through prayer. Speak positive words on them, spend time to set their destinies right in prayer.
You have to understand that CHILD DISCIPLINE IS LIKE A DRUG, IF TAKEN IN OVERDOSE IT WILL KILL!
Don’t form the habit of flogging your child, till you cross the thin line between discipline and molestation you won’t know.. so to avoid HAD I KNOWN!
Finally: IT TAKES A VILLAGE TO RAISE A CHILD! In the words of Mrs. Adebamiro our guest in one of our interview sessions, the link to the video is
https://youtu.be/E0-T5bv6-7o
Let the TEACHER do his work, let the religious leaders do their work and the parents oversee. At the end of the day the success of that child will be attributed to all of the parties involved.
Have a great Tuesday ahead.
NELSON, MAURICE INYANG
Child Coach
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