In my journey as children coach, I’ve met several parents especially new couples (intended parents) still wallowing in the syndrome of “I WANT A MALE CHILD, I WANT THIS I WANT THAT” especially when they are talking about family planning… This is very prevalent in Africa and it sucks!!
Can I shock you? Yes!
Strong and Resilient Child isn’t determined by the sex of your Child!
Resilient Children aren’t the ones that don’t cry, don’t fail or are one super man with some sort of super powers that will make them the best as our African parents will expect us!
Permit me to use my local dialect!
My father will say “ Ekpe aman fi afo abiet ebot” it means that a LION gave birth to you and you look like a GOAT.
YOUR CHILD ISN’T A SUPER HERO!!
He/she will fail, make mistakes, take foolish decisions, act sheepishly on a lot of stuff!!
A RESILIENT CHILD is that child that comes out of all the above mentioned and still wakes up each day to continue with LIFE expecting that things will change!
RESILIENCE IS IN THE MIND and not in stature, wealth etc!
So as promised I will tell you 5 secrets to build strong and resilient children.
1. UNDERSTAND AND TEACH THEM ABOUT SELF IMAGE
Strong self-image shouldn’t be underestimated when talking about resilience. When a child knows who he/she is truly, he won’t give up easily.
When a child has a strong self-image his parent’s contributions to his/her success will be reduced and he will do most of it.
Quick Question: IF YOU HAD KNOWN ABOUT SELF IMAGE AS A CHILD, WOULDN’T YOU PICK DIFFERENT COLOURS TO PAINT A TRUE PICTURE OF YOU TO THE WORLD?
Of course, you certainly will.
2. UNDERSTAND THE CONCEPT OF MISTAKES/FAILURE
Are you above mistakes?
I ask again… are you above mistakes?
Why do you take it upon yourself to punish kids for little mistakes?
Like our Typical Black Parents don’t want to see you come back with anything below the third position in the class, they just have a benchmark in their minds set for their kids!
Quick question: WHO SET THE MARK?
The concept of mistakes and failure says that no one is above mistakes and that mistakes and failures are the bricks in which you build your success, I will say that, be afraid of anyone that hasn’t made any mistakes in life cos he/she may end up a disaster.
3. UNDERSTAND AND TEACH THEM “the trampoline concept”
My best part, When coaching children, I tell them this a lot and this concept says that “WHATEVER JUMPS ON YOU, SEND IT BACK”
Teach them that they are in-charge of their courts, a ball that comes into their court can only stay if they allow it to stay. Is it friends, ideologies, methods, lifestyles, addictions etc..
4. UNDERSTAND AND TEACH THEM ABOUT THEIR PERSONALITY.
This is a very important aspect, and this will involve different personality types. Your 5 kids can have 2-3 different personality types and you need to understand all of this and work with them with this in mind. Try to identify it for them and teach them about it.
Gone are those days when parents want their kids to behave in a certain way. Like robots and they finally end up raising rascals.
Can you remember those two Indian classic movies: 3 IDIOTS and LIKE STARS ON EARTH!
Do you want know about your Children’s personality, comment about the ones you know in the comment section. Leggo!
Finally,
5. CONNECTION!
Have a STRONG connection with your kids, individually. Teach them that Family is everything firstly, teach them how to also socialize with their friends especially when they need to help solve a problem. Problem solving is very important skill and should be practiced in their cycle.
When you understand all of the above, it'll be easier to help your child in anyway you can.
We need strong Kids to take over positions of Leadership and bring the expected change in society.
Remember: EVERY CHILD IS SPECIAL AND EVERY CHILD IS
In my journey as children coach, I’ve met several parents especially new couples (intended parents) still wallowing in the syndrome of “I WANT A MALE CHILD, I WANT THIS I WANT THAT” especially when they are talking about family planning… This is very prevalent in Africa and it sucks!!
Can I shock you? Yes!
Strong and Resilient Child isn’t determined by the sex of your Child!
Resilient Children aren’t the ones that don’t cry, don’t fail or are one super man with some sort of super powers that will make them the best as our African parents will expect us!
Permit me to use my local dialect!
My father will say “ Ekpe aman fi afo abiet ebot” it means that a LION gave birth to you and you look like a GOAT.
YOUR CHILD ISN’T A SUPER HERO!!
He/she will fail, make mistakes, take foolish decisions, act sheepishly on a lot of stuff!!
A RESILIENT CHILD is that child that comes out of all the above mentioned and still wakes up each day to continue with LIFE expecting that things will change!
RESILIENCE IS IN THE MIND and not in stature, wealth etc!
So as promised I will tell you 5 secrets to build strong and resilient children.
1. UNDERSTAND AND TEACH THEM ABOUT SELF IMAGE
Strong self-image shouldn’t be underestimated when talking about resilience. When a child knows who he/she is truly, he won’t give up easily.
When a child has a strong self-image his parent’s contributions to his/her success will be reduced and he will do most of it.
Quick Question: IF YOU HAD KNOWN ABOUT SELF IMAGE AS A CHILD, WOULDN’T YOU PICK DIFFERENT COLOURS TO PAINT A TRUE PICTURE OF YOU TO THE WORLD?
Of course, you certainly will.
2. UNDERSTAND THE CONCEPT OF MISTAKES/FAILURE
Are you above mistakes?
I ask again… are you above mistakes?
Why do you take it upon yourself to punish kids for little mistakes?
Like our Typical Black Parents don’t want to see you come back with anything below the third position in the class, they just have a benchmark in their minds set for their kids!
Quick question: WHO SET THE MARK?
The concept of mistakes and failure says that no one is above mistakes and that mistakes and failures are the bricks in which you build your success, I will say that, be afraid of anyone that hasn’t made any mistakes in life cos he/she may end up a disaster.
3. UNDERSTAND AND TEACH THEM “the trampoline concept”
My best part, When coaching children, I tell them this a lot and this concept says that “WHATEVER JUMPS ON YOU, SEND IT BACK”
Teach them that they are in-charge of their courts, a ball that comes into their court can only stay if they allow it to stay. Is it friends, ideologies, methods, lifestyles, addictions etc..
4. UNDERSTAND AND TEACH THEM ABOUT THEIR PERSONALITY.
This is a very important aspect, and this will involve different personality types. Your 5 kids can have 2-3 different personality types and you need to understand all of this and work with them with this in mind. Try to identify it for them and teach them about it.
Gone are those days when parents want their kids to behave in a certain way. Like robots and they finally end up raising rascals.
Can you remember those two Indian classic movies: 3 IDIOTS and LIKE STARS ON EARTH!
Do you want know about your Children’s personality, comment about the ones you know in the comment section. Leggo!
Finally,
5. CONNECTION!
Have a STRONG connection with your kids, individually. Teach them that Family is everything firstly, teach them how to also socialize with their friends especially when they need to help solve a problem. Problem solving is very important skill and should be practiced in their cycle.
When you understand all of the above, it'll be easier to help your child in anyway you can.
We need strong Kids to take over positions of Leadership and bring the expected change in society.
Remember: EVERY CHILD IS SPECIAL AND EVERY CHILD IS
A GIFT!!!
Treat them as one.
NELSON, MAURICE INYANG
#Child Coach A GIFT!!!
Treat them as one.
NELSON, MAURICE INYANG
#Child Coach
